Hi there. My name is ...... (but you can call me CGR!), I’m 25 years old and I’m a
compulsive gambling addict. After making repeated failed attempts to stop
gambling and regain control of my life, I have decided to give it one more try
and share my story with other people in the hope that this time, things finally
change. Perhaps someone who is struggling the same way I have will see this one
day and find it helpful to see that they’re not alone, so here’s my story and
how I got to where I am.
(EDIT: this is a fairly long description of the background
to my gambling. If you can’t be arsed to read it all, go to Part 2 where I
describe my current situation and the aim of the blog)
My first experiences of gambling were from the age of 16
playing poker with my buddies from school. We used to hang out most weekends at
a friend’s house, have a few drinks and smokes and play little £5 rebuy sit and
goes. My friends were much better poker players than me and I never won, but it
was cheap entertainment and a great way for us to all hang out and have a
laugh.
When I moved away from home and went to university the poker
games ended and I didn’t do any form of gambling until I was about 19. There
were a couple of casinos in Brighton and some of my friends liked to play
blackjack, so one night we went into town and decided to have a few drinks at
the local Grosvenor casino before hitting the bars. I had never stepped foot in
a casino before and was struck by the buzz in the air as I reached the casino
floor. The drinks were flowing and the punters dressed up as they crammed
around the gaming tables trying to get their bet in. I was young and it was
exciting, but as a bit of a gambling novice I found the tables to be a little
intimidating. I found myself an empty roulette terminal, stuck my 20 quid in
and played low stakes for a about an hour. I can’t remember whether I won or
lost, but I think back to this day sometimes and wonder how my life might be
different today if I had never stepped foot in that casino. I may not remember
the outcome of the evening, but I do know that I got a buzz out of it.
There were a few more occasions I visited the casino with my
friends on nights out. I really enjoyed the buzz of being in there. My stakes
stayed low and id gained a bit of confidence to play at the tables. The
jostling around the table to get my bet down in time, the feeling of the chips
in my hand. I loved it.
It wasn’t long before I was asking my friends if they wanted
to go down there every weekend. But seemingly they weren’t as keen as I was, so
I started to visit the casino on my own. But now it was maybe a couple of times
a week, and I’d go during the week and during the day when it was quieter. I
never took much money, and I’d had a couple of decent wins and started craving
the buzz. Before I knew it I was a regular, joking with the croupiers and
getting to know some of the other regular gamblers. By the time I left
university I was gambling 3-5 times a week. I felt in control and didn’t get
myself into any financial difficulties through my gambling, but I recognised
that I had become kind of obsessed with it. I would lay in bed at night and try
and think of new roulette bets to make to beat the odds and I was always
planning my next trip down to the casino.
I finished my degree and left Brighton to go travelling in
New Zealand. There were only 4 mainland casinos in the whole country at the
time I was there, and as I was travelling in more rural parts of the country, I
never really thought about gambling. It wasn’t until we made a stop in
Queenstown, which is home to half of all the casinos in New Zealand that I was
able to resume my favourite past time. The roulette table was a little
expensive for my taste so I played blackjack instead. It wasn’t long before I
was down $200 and walking back to the hostel feeling sick. If you’re reading
this as a compulsive gambler you will know the feeling well. It was the most
money I’d ever lost and I was travelling on a budget. I felt a sense of relief
leaving Queenstown knowing that I wouldn’t be able to gamble for a while.
I rented a flat with the girl I was seeing in a town up
North and didn’t have the opportunity to gamble any more as I was hundreds of
miles away from the nearest casino. Even though I eventually split with the
girl, I made some of the best friendships I’d ever had and have some of the
very best times of my life. But eventually they all started to move away and I
decided I’d do the same. My closest buddy was going down to Queenstown and I
made the decision to go back down there and try to find myself some work. I
only realise on reflection how big a mistake that was.
It was out of the tourist season and finding a job was
proving hard, the money I had saved from my previous job was running low, and
the girl I had gone out to New Zealand with and subsequently broken up with had
started living in Queenstown and was making my life difficult. I was determined
to stay as I loved the country so much, but my visa was running out and I
lacked the funds necessary to extend it for another year. My Dad agreed to help
me out and sent me £2000. But I didn’t go and get all my medicals done as I
should have. Instead I completed part of my application and started to just
live off the money having still not found a job. I was spending a lot of time
drinking and smoking weed with my friend and started going to the casino again.
It didn’t take long before the £2000 was running out, and I still hadn’t found
work. I found myself getting increasingly depressed, but I kept gambling and
before I knew it I was down to my last couple of hundred bucks. I confided in
my friend, who being such a great guy told me I could crash on his floor as
long as I needed to.
Eventually I found work but it was a crappy cold calling job
and it made me miserable. I was good enough at it to make enough money to enjoy
myself, but I was gambling most of it away every week rather than getting my
own place to stay, and when I wasn’t at the casino I was getting drunk and
stoned every night. After I couldn’t take working there anymore, I quit, blew
most of my money and had to get my parents to buy me a flight home.
I was 23 now, and very soon after returning to England I got
a decent job in the city. I was earning more money than I ever had, and while I
had started betting on the football every weekend I could afford the £20 a week
I’d put on the games and didn’t step foot in a casino for a good couple of
years. But certain circumstances in my life were making me depressed again. I
think that my tendency to get really down at times is probably related to my
compulsive gambling. But then things got better. I met a girl and quickly fell
in love with her. We would go out into the city every weekend together and
after only a handful of dates we were in a relationship. My previous relationship
was very toxic and damaging and I couldn’t believe that I had found someone who
could make me so happy. For about the first year of our relationship I was as
happy as I could ever remember being. We would go to museums, go out for
dinner, go to the pub and get drunk together. I was saving money to get a
deposit on a house and I felt really positive about where my life was heading.
But something happened. I don’t know what triggered it, but I began to slip
back into my own ways. Before I knew it, things had gotten bad. Really bad and
really fast…….